Recently the Myvesta Foundation has launched a free dating site just for people in debt, DatingForDebtors.com. The intention of the site is to allow people, from all around the world, that feel lost, alone or isolated because of their financial troubles, to find new friends. There is no expectation that people that join this free site will actually go on a “date”, in fact using the site as a way just to make new friends seems to be the goal of many that have already joined.

People that are troubled with financial problems are often overcome with negative feelings of self-worth, self-esteem and depression and find it very hard to seek new relationships or friends during these difficult times. The last thing that a debtor needs, is more rejection during a time of their life they are already feeling anxious and on-edge. The DatingForDebtors.com site allows people sharing those similar financial worries and concerns to come together and begin to share conversations around a common theme of “I just want to get out of debt!”

There is no charge to access this free site to meet others suffering with financial problems. The site offers a host of features including chat, member email, advanced search capabilities, instant messaging, and more. As a global social enterprise that helps people with debt problems, it just seemed like a logical and nice thing to do for people in pain and financial trouble.

Those that have lived through the pain of financial problems know that being in debt can lead to isolation and loneliness. Past studies by Myvesta show that almost 40% of people living through money troubles are also suffering from symptoms of depression that only further intensify the darkness and isolation that people feel. There can be nothing good gained out of suffering in silence and that’s why this free meeting site was launched.

Sometimes the best medicine is just a cup of coffee and a hug.

Money troubles don’t magically go away overnight. Most often it can be a long and bumpy ride to successfully rid yourself of the financial worries that have been bringing you down. While many dream of a quick debt consolidation loan, the reality is that unless you have tremendous equity in real estate, an unsecured debt consolidation loan is most often a scam to get up-front fees out of consumers. People often don’t realize that they did not get in debt overnight and they are not going to get out of debt overnight and the road out of debt may take longer than expected.

There are many ways to break free from debt. Some of them legal, some of them involve reaching out for help and some are nothing more than good old fashioned nose to the grindstone work. No matter which approach debtors seek, there is one thing in common; it is often a difficult and lonely journey.

So what are people to do?

Historically people with debt simply suffered in silence. Those in relationships fought, those with previous bad relationships stayed entrapped in failed marriages until the debt issued could be resolved and those alone and without financial resources, often felt unable to date or meet new people.

Over the years we’ve heard statements from people in debt like:

“She is the love of my life but my credit is so bad that I’m afraid to ask her to marry me and she said unless I do she is gone.”

“Once we can get rid of this credit we are getting divorced. These bills have brought so much stress into our relationship I don’t think it can be fixed.”

“It seems that all I do is gain weight and eat since being in debt. I feel so alone and can’t seem to do anything to feel happy again.”

“People think I am a successful doctor but what they don’t know is that I’m just making it month to month. I feel like a fraud and that seems to stop me from finding someone special in my life.”

If you want to read more about how people in debt feel, visit the debt confessional and read some of the debt confessions. What people in debt will find is that they are not alone.

Debt can bring shame into your life. This shame and feeling of inadequacy is fostered by your own self image of failure and by the negative messages that debt collector’s and others aim at you.  The debt collection process is not designed to be a party or fun. Debt collectors know that they will recover more money with pain rather than pleasure. And they do. So knowing that debt is a dark hole in the lives of many, all we want to do is help people find a ray of light, a friend, someone to talk and share with and maybe, just maybe, a cup of coffee and a hug. Everyone can use a hug.

So while you might be suffering from the pain of financial problems with Bank of America, Barclaycard, MBNA, HSBC, Citibank, Capital One, Providian, Visa or MasterCard, now you can use that negative experience as a way to meet others, provide advice or maybe a friendly shoulder to lean on.

The DatingForDebtors.com site is designed to be nothing more than a virtual clubhouse for people from all around the world that are dealing with debt and just want to reach out to others in the same situation, provide free help or just find a friend. Who knows, free registrants on the site might make a new friend or maybe even find a future spouse. Now wouldn’t that be ironic to meet the love of your life over a common bond of debt?